Dr Robert Glover describes a typical Nice Guy in his book “No More Mr Nice Guy". There he also provides guidelines to recover from the Mr Nice Guy Syndrome..
What is a Nice Guy?
He is the one having such good conversations with his female friends, but never has a date himself on Saturday night. He is the man who does everything to please his wife, but his marriage is emotional and sexual unfulfilling. He is the reliable buddy everyone turns for favours and advice, but whose own life is in shambles. He is the man who avoids conflict at all time and is constantly looking for approval from others.
What is wrong with a Nice Guy?
There is in itself nothing wrong with Nice Guys behaviour. The term "nice" refers to the core belief system that these men have about themselves and the world around them. These men are conditioned to think that their needs and love will be satisfied if they remain "nice" towards their environment. If they continue being “nice” and friendly they will lead a relaxed and easy life. However, in real life nothing seems further from the truth. This continuous effort of being nice turns the Nice Guys often to not so Nice Guys. Nice Guys can be unfair, secretive, manipulative or isolated. Nice Guys use passive aggression to channel their suppressed anger. Nice Guys find it difficult to set boundaries and experience struggles in intimate relationships. Nice Guys who are trapped in their core belief are suffering from the Mr. Nice Guy Syndrome.
NMMNG Recovery groep
The most effective tool for your NMMNG recovery process is to join a NMMNG support group. Recovering from the Mr Nice Guy syndrome starts with showing yourself and feeling supported by people who you feel safe with. It is therefore essential for your recovery to find men with whom you feel safe. Men in such a group can keep each other informed of their recovery and support each other in their process. Sharing your experiences is good and often healing to do, but it's especially nice to feel that you're not the only one who is in the process. You can learn a lot from other people's recovery process. Besides the imprint of having a support group this four-month series offers you a further deepening in the NMMNG material. Each session a NMMNG topic is introduced and there is room to ask questions. In addition, you are invited to share your own process and receive feedback from the group. Listening, empathy and feedback are discussed extensively.
During the eight sessions attention will be paid to the following topics:
The exact content is determined in consultation with the group. Your contribution is is therefore highly appreciated. What these four months can bring you:
The sessions are led by Hajee. Hajee did successfully undergo the No More Mr. Nice Guy coaching process with Dr Robert Glover. Hajee is now a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach.
For whom?
For recovering Nice Guys who want to give their recovery process a life-changing impulse.
This recovery group will be conducted in English.
Where, when and how much?
The two-weekly sessions take place in Utrecht at Studio Loevenhout at the Pretoriadreef 49.
The sessions start at 19:30 and end at 22:30.
Coffee, tea and snacks are provided.
The maximum number of participants is 8.
These are the exact dates:
The costs for this 4-months training are €750 euro.
EARLY BIRD!!!
Sign up before December 31st 2016 and pay only €675 euros.
It is not possible to attend only one or two sessions.
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